Romance Scams: How to Protect Yourself from Online Dating Fraud
Originally published April 30, 2022 • Updated March 30, 2026

Romance scams have become one of the fastest-growing forms of financial fraud in the United States. Fueled by artificial intelligence, social media, and organized criminal networks, these scams cost Americans hundreds of millions of dollars each year.
What Is a Romance Scam?
A romance scam is a type of fraud where criminals create fake online relationships to gain a victim’s trust and eventually request money through wire transfers, cryptocurrency, or gift cards.
The Rising Threat of Romance Scams
Romance scams are no longer the occasional “lonely hearts” con. They have become one of the fastest growing and most emotionally destructive forms of financial crime in the United States, fueled by artificial intelligence, social media and sophisticated criminal networks.
What once looked like a small-time scam has evolved into a highly organized global operation that manipulates trust, exploits loneliness and drains hundreds of millions of dollars from victims each year.
In 2024, Americans reported losing more than $672 million to romance scams. Investigators believe the real number is far higher because many victims never report the crime due to embarrassment.
Over the past five years, consumers have reported losing more than $1.3 billion to romance scams, making it the costliest category of fraud tracked by the FBI.
At its core, romance scams are not about technology. They are about trust.
One of the biggest misconceptions is that only vulnerable seniors fall victim. In reality, victims come from all ages, income levels, educational backgrounds, and geographic areas.
How Romance Scams Work
Fraudsters typically begin by creating fake online identities using stolen or manipulated photos. They may claim to work overseas on an oil rig, serve in the military, or work as a doctor with an international organization. These stories provide a convenient reason why they cannot meet in person.
Once contact is made, the scammer moves quickly to build an emotional connection. Conversations become daily, personal, and affectionate. Within weeks, sometimes days, the scammer begins introducing financial problems.
Victims may be asked to help pay for travel expenses, medical bills, customs fees, or business investments. In many cases, the requests involve wire transfers, cryptocurrency, reloadable cards or gift cards—payment methods that are difficult or impossible to reverse.
How Romance Scams Often Begin
Romance scams often start with a simple message or connection that seems completely ordinary.
It often begins with a simple text from a stranger. The recipient may respond that they have the wrong number. The sender apologizes but continues the conversation.
What begins as a harmless exchange can quickly grow into an online friendship or even a romantic relationship over a short period of time.
Advances in artificial intelligence and automated messaging platforms allow scammers to send millions of messages through dating apps, social media, and text messaging. They only need a small percentage of people to respond to find potential victims.
According to the Global Anti-Scam Alliance, about 70 percent of U.S. adults experienced some form of fraud attempt in 2025, and the average American now encounters hundreds of fraud messages each year.
Why Romance Scams Are So Effective
Romance scams are rarely random. They follow carefully developed scripts designed to isolate victims and prevent outside intervention.
Scammers often coach victims on what to say if their bank or family members ask questions. Common explanations include home renovations, helping a relative or making a legitimate investment.
They may also discourage victims from discussing their relationship with friends or family. This secrecy is intentional, as scammers often claim that others will not understand or will try to interfere with the relationship.
The Financial and Emotional Impact
The financial losses can be devastating. Some victims drain retirement savings, take out loans, or accumulate significant debt.
Just as damaging is the emotional toll. Many victims experience lasting stress, anxiety, and embarrassment that prevents them from seeking help.
Warning Signs of a Romance Scam
While online dating and digital connections are common today, a few precautions can significantly reduce your risk.
- Be cautious of anyone who quickly declares strong feelings but refuses to meet in person or participate in a live video call
- Be skeptical of individuals who claim to be working overseas or traveling internationally and suddenly need financial help
- Never send money, gift cards, cryptocurrency, or wire transfers to someone you have only met online
What to Do If You Suspect a Romance Scam
If you suspect a romance scam, stop communicating with the individual immediately and talk to someone you trust.
You should also contact your financial institution if money has been sent and report the incident through the FTC’s fraud reporting website.
At their core, romance scams succeed because they prey on one of our strongest instincts—the need to connect. An online relationship that seems genuine can quickly turn costly, but a little fact-checking can protect both your heart and your wallet.
